We Need to Talk About Expectations…

Indulge me here, and listen about my pathetic dating life. Dating kind of sucks. I think that’s probably a pretty common consensus among us single people. Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble give us 100’s of options at our fingertips so you’d think it’d be easier to meet someone you could actually possibly form some type of relationship. So far, that’s not the case for me. I hear of people meeting forming lasting relationships with people they meet on these apps but it just hasn’t happened for me yet.

Here are some of the interesting interactions I’ve had on Tinder or Bumble…

The direct guys.



Not pictured, that one guy who asked me if I wanted to blow him for money. PS – that sexy time message was sent at about 8:30 in the morning on a weekday.

The ones who just… blow it.


Why… was… any of that… necessary?

The worst kinds… The ones that almost have promise.

Then you get the ones who you actually decide to meet. You may go on a date or two and then things either fizzle out or they decide to ghost. That’s always fun. My most recent blunder comes from a dude who I went on pretty great first date with. Conversation flowed, he was funny, and it ended with a quick kiss goodbye at the end of the night. I got home, and a couple hours later he text me to ask me on a second date. I was like, ok ok ok… this is going well.

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When dating, I try very hard to be chill. It’s not really in me… but I’m learning. I’m growing.

Anyway, this dude goes out of town for a week right after our first date. Okay, cool. No biggie. Then he gets back, and a week passes, and then another. We’re going on 3 weeks since date one, and this dude is still texting me so… I say something after days of hinting about hanging. I’m super smooth about it, I’m just like, “so… are we are ever going on that second date?”

Then, ya’ll are not going to believe what he says to me. “I think we need to talk about expectations.” I’m just like…

I expect a timely second date when asked on one, and if that’s not something you can do it’s best we cut it off now.  I WILL say though, I can at least appreciate this dude had the sense to actually discuss this situation rather than disappearing. (Yay for praising people for having common decency.)

I have no pretty way to wrap up here except if you’re in a loving, committed, healthy relationship CHERISH IT AND THE PERSON YOU LOVE because you just got a small glimpse into the ridiculousness that exists in the Tinderverse.

Also, your expectations are the most important. If someone can’t give you what you need or what you’re looking for… don’t settle. Keep looking. I’m really single, so definitely listen to me, I clearly know what I’m talking about.

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